SPRING CLEAN YOUR MIND | 3 Questions for Peace
WHERE IS MY BABY? Is there something wrong? My tired mum anxiously asked. “You said you’d bring him back for feeding hours ago, but nobody’s brought him, I’m worried that he must be hungry by now.” This was the conversation that my mum had with a nurse, hours after giving birth to me, and this was my welcome to the world.
Being taken from my mum to spend hours alone without care and food. It didn’t matter that it was an innocent oversight by the hospital staff. I didn’t know that then. My upset feelings came from my perhaps natural, yet misinformed perceptions, which were fuelled by what I thought and felt had happened.
Without knowing the reality of the situation, I continued my life unaware of the event ever happening, along with the toxic belief that had been created that day. Subsequently, I had no idea the event and belief had been screwing with my life, from behind the scenes, for several years. It wasn’t until I had a Mind Detox (over three decades later) that the ramifications of being left alone after my birth were finally revealed and resolved.
I’ve since learned that even if we begin life with no spoken words, we are able to feel what’s going on from before our first breath. Later in life, we learn to use words to convey how we feel – but feelings are fuelling the formation of our beliefs from the get-go.
As most of our strong beliefs are created before our teenage years, during a period in our life when we have little life experience, they are often misinformed and downright wrong. Meaning that even the earliest of events can impact our entire life – unless we proactively discover our misinformed beliefs and update them.
As the name suggests, Mind Detox is a tool for letting go of anything toxic that is preventing us from being at our best. I believe we are born with brilliance built in, but if we are holding on to unresolved stuff from the past, which have created unconscious toxic beliefs, it is harder to engage our natural states of inner peace, confidence, creativity and immense potential.
Peace with the past is not only possible, but it is paramount for experiencing our potential in our present day life, too. I know this from Mind Detoxing hundreds of people - many with either subtle early-life traumatic events (like my example above), and others with more extreme past experiences needing resolved.
How we perceive past events determines whether we endure problems or experience peace, today. Are we looking through a mental lens that is clouded by toxic assumptions, beliefs or attitudes? If so, we lack pure perception.
These three elements distort our remembering of things that have happened in our past and justify a reactive resistance towards what we think happened. The combination of impure perception and reactive resistance creates chronic stress, negative emotions, problematic behavioural patterns and, in some cases, ill-health. In short, if there is an absence of peace with the past, then we can be sure there is also an absence of pure perception.
“Our perceptions are pure when we see the entirety of reality, as it actually is, rather than seeing a falsified edited version of reality, based upon our assumptions, beliefs and attitudes.”
Being at peace with the past requires us to return to the truth of reality, where resolution is waiting for us. Until we do this, our life is defined and determined by a series of fictitious fantasies, imagined by our mind, which are only a relative reality (similar to a dream or convincing story).
It is the stories that we make up and tell ourselves about life – distorted by our impure perceptions – that hurt and hinder us over time. When we uncover the truth of reality, we immediately find the hidden treasures of forgiveness, wisdom, understanding and acceptance.
If truth, peace and potential are what we want, we must be willing to question our assumptions and challenge our beliefs stemming from what we think happened. We need to instead see what really went on, or find new ways of perceiving the past and present. Doing so helps to clean the mind of toxic beliefs, helps us find peace with the past, and live the best life today.
3 Questions for Peace
To discover the truth of any given situation and find resolution in the recognition of reality, get started by answering these three introductory questions:
Are my facts about what happened actually fictions?
Is the real problem my perceptions of the past?
Do I want to be right or do I want to be at peace?
The simple act of questioning your assumptions can crack open an inner door through which peace becomes possible. Little can be done to improve things if you are adamant that the past happened how you currently believe it did. However, if you are open to perceiving your past with fresh eyes and from a more empowered perspective, then having a Mind Detox this spring can work wonders for your present day peace and potential.
