COMMON CAUSES OF CHRONIC SADNESS
Through my clinical observations, chronic sadness is commonly a result of thinking patterns based on the themes of lack, limitation, victimhood, comparison, unfairness, wrongness or ‘poor me’. Although it may appear that we are sad because of circumstances. We feel whatever we are thinking about - whether we are aware of the thoughts or not. Quite simply, if you are engaging a sad mind-set, then that is how you will inevitably feel.
Common mind-based causes of sadness include: Resistance to what's happened in the past, the belief that something needs to be better/different, feelings of powerlessness, pointlessness, focusing on what’s wrong, over- comparison, feeling unseen, perceived lack, absence of a compelling life purpose, resisting certain emotions to the point of numbness. When it comes to common thinking patterns, these include: ‘I wish it had not happened that way’, ‘What’s the point?’ ‘Life is difficult’ or ‘Life is unfair’ type-thinking.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting these thinking patterns are only causes of depression. I'm saying that pills tend to only treat the symptoms of sadness, rather than the underlying mind-based causes.